Having six kids is quite an adventure! Though I think now after 20 months, we are finally getting the hang of it... well most days anyway. My kids are ages 12 ,8 ,6 ,4 and 20 month old identical twin girls. We were going for #5, we already had 2 boys and 2 girls and figured we would love to have just 1 more and at 21 week ultrasound, we found out we were not expecting one but two girls! We were quite shocked, thank goodness I was laying down or I would have passed out! My Hubby did not even blink. I tell people we had twins because of my 8 year old daughter... that morning before we went in for an ultrasound, I asked her which she wanted another brother or sister ( the youngest at the time was a girl, who was a year and 1/2, and up until then we had had a boy then girl, a boy then girl). Well she told me she wanted 2, either one of each or two girls! I said, well sweetie your Mommy only has 1 baby at a time.... Little did I know, right. Kids say the darn est things :) I was so worried about how we would do it, having two babies at once. I worried about where my other children would fit in, and how it would affect their lives. But it has been an amazingly wonderful blessing! They have changed our lives in so many amazing ways and twins are such a special gift. The girls completed our family!
The hardest part of being a Mom to 6, for me is making sure I have time for each and everyone of them. Quality time is hard to find. Most days there are just not enough hours in the day. I do try to do little things with each one of my children throughout the day. Like one will help me cook dinner, or my oldest says up a little later than the rest and we can sit together and chat, or watch a show. and if we go to the store or out to run errands, I will try to rotate who gets to go. I also find it hard to make couples time. I can't remember the last time my Hubby and I had a night out alone together.. or even an adult conversation for that matter.
I think it is also hard to have your kids going through so many different stages in life all at the same time.... Like now for us, we are dealing (almost) 13 year old boy, schooling, sports and dating stuff.. I mean really the the heck is that anyway! 8 year old girl Drama! 6 year old temper tantrums! 4 year old screaming fits! And the terrible 2s times 2 are vastly approaching! never mind teething times 2, and fighting over toys. Oh, and don't forget the fighting among siblings! It can get crazy! But I love it! I have always wanted a large family, and new from very early on I wanted to be a mother.
I have resided myself to the fact, that there is no such thing as a perfect mother, as long as I am the best Mom that I can be. And if my house is not spotless and the laundry is not finished, its OK. Taking a little time for myself does not make me evil. ( I'm still working on that one though)But the most important lesson I have learned to date is to cherish every single moment you have with your kids, cause you will never get it back. they grow so fast, and in the blink of an eye, they are becoming teenagers and then adults.
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